Publishing Date: 2016
Josef is lost in a secret world of sexual gratification, a true-life Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, unable to halt the “roller coaster of conflicting emotional extremes that never stopped long enough for me to get off.”
He traces the beginnings of his obsession to his childhood, where his natural innocent curiosity and need for exploration were at odds with his Catholic upbringing and the view of his extremely repressed mother, both of whom regarded the human body as ‘dirty’ and ‘shameful’.
For sixty years, Josef lived a secret double life. The only people who knew about this other life were the mistresses, transgender women, and sex workers with whom he indulged every conceivable fantasy. No one in his ‘other’ life had any idea of who he really was or the things he did.
Yet his secret life claimed a terrible toll. The failure of his first marriage. The loss of his son. The loss of his beloved second wife.
In his journey, Josef explores an astonishing variety of topics. In addition to sexual addiction and the hidden world of BDSM, he delves into the burden of guilt of the Catholic Church, fear, political correctness, non-judgment, love and loss, philosophy, the soul, spiritual awakening, and healing.
This is the journey of an ordinary man lost in an extraordinary secret, dark world, who ultimately finds his way out of the tangled mess through the union of heart and mind, thereby opening a path to self-forgiveness.
(From the book)\
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*WARNING* 18 OR OLDER YEARS OF AGE, STRONG MATURE CONTENT
First of all, I feel that the author should consider a career as an erotic writer because seriously, he has a way with words and with images. I'm not a stranger to reading books that have dark subject matter be it revenge, murder, or even incest (Thanks Roanoke Girls!) but I think its the first time that I read a book that contains BDSM, sex with men who see themselves as women (Transwomen). What is also an interesting reflection on further thought is that outside of sex, we know very little of the author in terms of hobbies, interests, or even his family such as two ex wives and a son. It almost feels as if something that should be intimate is instead used as a wall between him and everything else. The story seems to be both a memoir and at the same time the author plants essays here and there divulging some of his thoughts towards how the world is. The read requires an open mind towards the author and his experiences. One of the things that I strongly disagreed with the author is his assumption towards fat people, "If fat people don't like being stereotyped as lazy people who sit around eating too much, they should eat less, do some exercise, and lose some weight, but that's too hard. It's easier to sit around complaining about being called fat." (304 in my book) Being fat has a lot of complications than just sitting around and eating food; in some cases, first of all, there might be medical reasons that a person is overweight like removal of gallbladder where food with good fats turns into extra weight, there might also be issues with finances and what is convenient to eat; depression can also play a huge role in being overweight,
This was given to me for a review
4 out of 5
(0: Stay away unless a masochist 1: Good for insomnia 2: Horrible but readable; 3: Readable and quickly forgettable, 4: Good, enjoyable 5: Buy it, keep it and never let it go.)